Rift on "How ya doing?"
Gregg writes a great blog detailing with humor and true colors the cold realities of the trials of a post transplant journey.
In response to his response to the question"How are you doing?", which is almost always followed by: "You look so good." I wrote the following comment.
I too hate when people tell me how well I look. And ask with genuine concern about how I am doing. The truth is way too complicated and depressing. I may look good but I've got scary huge nodes hiding out in my guts, my bone marrow has aged 10 years in the last 3 years from the hit it took in the failed transplant, I take enough medicine twice a day to choke a T-REX to keep me "looking good", I have fatigue that you could cut with a knife, and my CLL is getting less and less responsive to my latest moves and I better think carefully of my next therapy cuz my options are limited.
But instead I say: "Thanks for asking. I am happy to be here and looking good". Which is also true.
And is also a very good place to be with still a few good cards to play and a lot of game left in me.
Stay strong bro
We are all in this together.
Brian
Labels: How are you doing?
posted by Brian Koffman at
11:06 PM
2 Comments:
Did you read the article in the L.A. times on August 11, 2011 titled, "HUGE" results raise hope for cancer breakthrough? It is about the breakthrough in treating leukemia. I instantly thought about you.
Thank you for clarifying how catch phrases like "How ya doing" can feel given the magnitude of what you and others are dealing with on a daily (and sometimes minute-to-minute) basis.
There's a fine line between avoiding saying
something (out of concern of getting it wrong) and using an everyday catch-phrase, which can minimize what you're going through.
~ Brenda
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