George Duke Dies of CLL and None of his Fans Knew of the Battle until his Obituary
"Jazz, funk and soul keyboard maestro George Duke (pictured) passed away at the age of 67. The musician reportedly battled chronic lymphocytic leukemia, according to his record label, Concord Music Group." says a score of press releases.
I am sadden by the loss of this great musician at a relatively young age, and I send my condolences to his friends and his family.
This is the first I heard that he had CLL. I totally respect his decision not to share his struggles.
"He was battling and being treated for chronic lymphocytic leukemia (CLL)." is the only clue we have.
Was his end a complication of his treatment? The press release hints at that. Or maybe not.
I wonder what therapies he accessed? Was a clinical trial part of his path? Did he try any of the new small molecules or mAbs? Was he cared for by a CLL expert?
We will never know.
When I hear, again and again of a TV or music or movie star who dies of CLL, I really do respect and understand their decision to hide their disease from their fans, and often I am sure from most of their colleagues. Might lose work if someone knew that you had cancer and the entertainment and many other business are very competitive and very phobic about any illness. And besides, it's about the art, not the cancer.
Many hide CLL simply because they can.
Most therapies are outpatient. Surgery is almost never indicated (maybe a rare lymph node biopsy or a splenectomy for intractable AIHA or ITP). We don't generally lose our hair or drastically drop our weight or even look much like a cancer patient is "supposed to look."
It is easy to hide CLL to very near the end.
And it is going to get easier and easier with the new oral drugs in the pipelines.
CLL as a non-event!
We are not quite there yet, but it may be becoming less and less of a visible and burdensome disease.
Easy to hide and getting easier.
But is it a good idea?
Hiding our CLL focuses our lives and our relationships on topics other than our cancer.
It forces us to compete in work and play without playing the "cancer card" for sympathy and a leg up.
We spare family and friends worry and concern that is often needless, especially if we have very indolent disease.
Those are all good things.
We miss the support and knowledge of others who might be able to help us and whom we might help by sharing out experience. It's a give and take that only comes from sharing our truths.
We don't expand the general awareness in the community of the gravity of the disease, the need for more research (and funding) for the promising new and improved treatments, and despite our best efforts, the human toll of our killer. We are competing for scare resources with much more visible and active cancer advocacy organizations.
We deny family and friends a chance to support and care for us.
We deny a part (but not nearly the whole) of who we are, when we don't share the raw truth of our illness.
Those are all bad things.
For each of us, we must decide whether to come out of the CLL closet.
Just as in treatment, there is no one size fits all in the world of CLL.
I understand and respect George's decision to play his cards close to the chest.
I have chosen to play mine in the public eye.