Sunday, November 7, 2010

The choice not to tell. Refection on the CLL death of Jill Clayburgh

Here is a letter I wrote to the CLL listserves that are such a valuable resource for me.

This has been a hot topic.

Friends

We are all a bit disappointed when we learned that yet another celebrity, this time an Academy award winner, Jill Clayburgh, chooses not to tout their CLL as a fund raising banner like others have done so successfully with breast or even colon cancer or HIV.

Maybe it is because it is so easy to hide, so discreet a disease. A disease that many can ignore for decades if it chooses to ignore you, so why raise an issue when the rest of the world can be so judgmental, dismissive, and exclusive. No surgeries, Maybe even no trips to the hospital , even to the very end of life. If you are lucky.

Sharing the news can needlessly prevent a raise, drive away paying clients and needed work, and scare well meaning friends and family.

Would that it was a different world. That we, to borrow from Dr. King. were judged by the quality of our souls and not the clonality of our B lymphocytes.

If more CLLers came out of the closet, would it change the world to be a more accepting one? it sure has for other issues like HIV/AIDS.

It is not for me to judge how others handle such a personal and private issue, and yet I too wish that we had a superstar fund raising publicist who could help us raise the money to do the research so that we can all, soon and in our time, exhale and say, I remember well CLL was an incurable disease.

Be well. Stay strong

We all in this together

Brian

Jill Clayburgh’s co-star had no idea she was sick (AP)
November 8, 2010
By amin

NEW YORK – In one of her final roles, Jill Clayburgh plays the mom of charismatic Viagra salesman Jamie Reidy (Jake Gyllenhaal) in the romantic comedy “Love and Other Drugs.”

Gyllenhaal and the film’s director Edward Zwick said they had no idea the Oscar-nominated screen legend was battling chronic lymphocytic leukemia at the time. They learned of it after their work together.

“I think part of her sickness is what made her live her life … and really cherish the moments she had and cherish the people she was with,” said Gyllenhaal while promoting the film in New York on Sunday. “And she did when she was with us, cherish those moments, and they made us all love her.”

Gyllenhaal filmed with Clayburgh in September of 2009.

Clayburgh, 66, died Friday at her home in Lakeville, Conn., after a 21-year battle with the disease.

Gyllenhaal credits Clayburgh’s iconic portrayal of a divorcee in 1978′s “An Unmarried Woman” with helping his own mother through divorce.

“It helped her through that time in a way that no other movie or anybody else had,” he said.

“She left an indelible impression on me,” he said. “You don’t really need much time to work or meet somebody and know that they’re really alive … and when I heard that (she was sick) I just thought, you know there’s that moment when you go like ‘oh, like maybe that might be why she was so extraordinary.’ And it makes me want to encourage people to wake up and live it like Jill did.”

Zwick said directing Clayburgh was “a real privilege.”

“Her legacy is an extraordinary kind of acting which is of the highest level of authenticity but also of comedy. She managed to do both those things at once,” he said.


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Blogger Jennifer said...

In a career where image is everything, I can't really blame her for keeping CLL private. I've been pondering the paradox that 21 years is a long time to survive but that 66 is way too young to succumb.

November 8, 2010 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If one is wealthy, there is no consequences in going public. For the rest, widespread knowledge of one's disease status can influence future promotions, raises, jobs etc contrary to the law of the land.
TomD

November 9, 2010 at 12:35 PM  

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